Comments on: Counter-intuitive Parenting http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/ Our Adoption Story Wed, 27 Jul 2011 23:54:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Adrianne Hibberd http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1442 Adrianne Hibberd Sun, 10 Oct 2010 14:54:14 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-1442 I couldn't agree more. But then again it is 2am where I am so I may agree to anything ;-) I couldn’t agree more. But then again it is 2am where I am so I may agree to anything ;-)

]]> By: Jennie Owens http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-152 Jennie Owens Thu, 28 May 2009 19:08:10 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-152 I wish it were feasible for parents of wounded kids to spend that kind of time one on one with our children. Parents have to pay bills, clean dishes, etc. We aren't always able to have them right next to us at all times, although some kids require constant line-of-sight kind of supervision. (It becomes exhausting to do that day in and day out, though!) It's wonderful that you deal with the issues behind the behavior, rather than just the behavior itself. That way, the kids can begin to understand why they are reacting the way they are. I wish it were feasible for parents of wounded kids to spend that kind of time one on one with our children. Parents have to pay bills, clean dishes, etc. We aren’t always able to have them right next to us at all times, although some kids require constant line-of-sight kind of supervision. (It becomes exhausting to do that day in and day out, though!) It’s wonderful that you deal with the issues behind the behavior, rather than just the behavior itself. That way, the kids can begin to understand why they are reacting the way they are.

]]> By: Patty Curthoys http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-151 Patty Curthoys Wed, 27 May 2009 23:06:55 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-151 Jennie, That was amazing how you articulate that. You have a gift. I really struggle with putting these things into words and you do that so beautifully. You're amazing! This really touched and helped me today. Jennie,

That was amazing how you articulate that. You have a gift. I really struggle with putting these things into words and you do that so beautifully. You’re amazing! This really touched and helped me today.

]]> By: Jennie http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Jennie Wed, 27 May 2009 20:02:48 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-150 Thanks for your encouragement! I totally agree...we are ALL wounded children, if you think about it. All of us have experienced hurts and fears, and, as a result, we push God away. I just wish I were better at actually carrying out the way I know I need to parent all the time!! Thanks for your encouragement! I totally agree…we are ALL wounded children, if you think about it. All of us have experienced hurts and fears, and, as a result, we push God away. I just wish I were better at actually carrying out the way I know I need to parent all the time!!

]]> By: Nichole http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-149 Nichole Wed, 27 May 2009 20:01:39 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-149 At the crisis nusery we often just sit with children on the couch. They rarely are separated from everyone without an adult next to them. We focus more on using words and making them explain their feelings rather than the bad behavior. At the crisis nusery we often just sit with children on the couch. They rarely are separated from everyone without an adult next to them. We focus more on using words and making them explain their feelings rather than the bad behavior.

]]> By: Socialwrkr247 http://owens.foreverhomes.org/2009/05/27/counter-intuitive-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-148 Socialwrkr247 Wed, 27 May 2009 19:16:31 +0000 http://www.4everhomes.org/index.php?option=com_wordpress&p=276#comment-148 The way you compare the way you must parent wounded children to the way God 'parents' us (the ultimate wounded children!) is breathtaking. In many ways I think ALL children should be parented therapeutically - because do we really need to hand out "justice" all the time when WE have been given MERCY so often in our own failings? Anyways - Thank you for putting it into words so beautifully. The way you compare the way you must parent wounded children to the way God ‘parents’ us (the ultimate wounded children!) is breathtaking. In many ways I think ALL children should be parented therapeutically – because do we really need to hand out “justice” all the time when WE have been given MERCY so often in our own failings? Anyways – Thank you for putting it into words so beautifully.

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