It’s a 5 hour round trip drive to our attachment therapist, and since the sessions are held in the middle of a work day I have not been a part of the bi-weekly trips. Last week that all changed. I was able to get away from work for the day for a marathon trip of [...]
I find it ironic that while he is spending so much time trying to push us away and prove that we’ll abandon him, he his literally hanging on so tightly to the promise that we’ll never leave him.
My husband and I have new favorite holidays. Our favorites previous to adopting three wounded children were the usuals….you know. Christmas, Valentines Day, Easter. Heck….we used to even enjoy our birthdays (wounded kids don’t like it when anyone besides them has a special day)! But, we have declared that, for us, our major holidays are [...]
Mommy shopping. One of the joys of parenting wounded children. For these kids, the grass is ALWAYS greener on the the other side. That’s the way all of us think from time to time, but for these kids this way of thinking becomes a way of life. No matter who they live with, they are [...]
Today was a short day for school, so basically my newest son only had two hours of tutoring and then I brought him back home. He has been kicked out of the regular classroom, because his behaviors were getting so out of control. To say I was less than thrilled about having to go and [...]
My parents are coming into town tomorrow from Wisconsin. I miss them, so I’m really excited for their visit. I’m getting ready for their arrival. You know….. The normal getting-ready-for-company routine. Cleaning the house, making sure there are fresh sheets on the guest bed, getting the fridge stocked up, and making sure they have [...]
Today was Easter (you know, that holiday when, despite what the candy manufacturers would want us to believe, we celebrate the resurrection of our Lord). Our newest boy’s morning had already started out rough, so our morning began with hushed discussions as to whether or not he could handle going to church. Wanting him to [...]
I’m learning that, when you are the parent of a wounded child, fun isn’t usually fun anymore. At the very least, fun outings become a great source of anxiety for wounded children. My still-angry child who missed the trip to the pool tries so hard to sabotage any fun due to his anxiety. Fun is just too much for him to handle. I find that, even in the midst of fun, wounded children are still wounded. Most days for us include “therapy.” I can’t seem to get away from it, even when we are supposed to be having fun. Moment by moment, these children are dealing with emotions much to big for them to deal with on their own. So, in the midst of a pool party, I am helping a child work through her anger and jealousy. It is just a normal part of my everyday life to have to say many times throughout the day, “What are you mad about now?” or “Use your words.”
I have found the feelings journal to be quite helpful. My kids hate it. But, I have observed that if they’ve gone more than a week without writing in it, I see the difference in their behavior.
I was so proud of one of my kiddos. Yesterday my daughter dealt with issues that would be hard for an adult to deal with. It took courage and bravery. Afterward, you could see the big grin across her face, and I swear she was pounds lighter walking out of that session. Yesterday was a reminder to me. “Oh yea. This is why I do what I do.” Now, really I do what I do for one reason, and that is because God had called me to parent three wounded kids.
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